It’s an age-old question: How do I find my soulmate? Some people don’t even believe soulmates actually exist, or that they just seem too good to be true.
But, the truth is that there is usually going to be someone out there who is practically a perfect fit for you, if you know where to look, and what to look for. Everyone’s going to have their differences in relationships, and you’ll be hard pressed to ever get involved in a relationship where there will never be an argument, even if you’re the best of friends for years and years. But having a soulmate – someone who truly ‘gets’ you inside and out, isn’t impossible in relationships.
Check out these six ways to find your soulmate, and the next person you get into a relationship with could be yours forever.
# 1. Know What You Want
When you start searching for a soulmate, don’t be afraid to be clear about the things you really want. Try making a list of all of the positive attributes you would like in a partner, and stick to that when it comes to your dating life. That way, you can look for people who specifically have those characteristics, and immediately weed out the rest.
# 2. Always Be True To Yourself
If you go into a relationship pretending to be someone you’re not, you and your partner will never be truly satisfied. The ‘real’ you has to come out sooner or later, and if you’re a different person than you portrayed to be at the start, your partner could see that as a lie. You wouldn’t want them to pretend to be someone else, so give them the same courtesy. If you’re both able to fully be yourselves from the start, it’ll give you a great idea if there’s a connection and spark from the beginning.
# 3. Put Yourself Out There
Don’t be afraid to get out, try new things, and meet new people. Ask family and friends for any suggestions they may have about people who would be a good fit for you. Yes, blind dates can be nerve wracking and even stressful at times, but you can’t be scared of taking a chance on anything when you’re looking for someone to spend a forever with.
# 4. Trust Your Gut
It may sound cliche, but there’s something to be said about following our intuition or our ‘gut feelings.’ If you feel an instant spark with someone, don’t be afraid to pursue it. Alternatively, if you feel a sudden pull toward an event, an activity, etc., don’t ignore it. Whether you believe in fate or not, ignoring your heart and mind’s innermost desires, as crazy as they may seem at the time, could mean you’re missing out on meeting the right person.
# 5. Reunite With Old Flames
Now, we’re not suggesting you go and reconnect with your ex’s, or anyone you may have had a bad relationship with. But, if you’ve ever thought about the ‘one that got away,’ or someone you always wanted to date but never got the chance, a childhood sweetheart, etc., don’t ignore them if they’re single. You never know if you could have just missed a connection at one point in time, but it’s never too late to make something happen!
# 6. Don’t Expect Perfection
As stated above, even soulmates go through tough times. It’s how you handle them as a couple that makes the difference. If you’re currently dating someone, or have your eye on someone, but have trouble initially seeing eye to eye on everything, don’t write them off completely. As you get to know them on a deeper level, if they are truly your soulmate, you’ll learn to overlook those differences, and see them for who they really are; someone you could love very much.